Going through a breakup sucks, that’s just the harsh truth. Sometimes, men know exactly how to handle a breakup.
But that’s not always the case. You see, sometimes, men don’t know what the hell they’re doing. Sometimes, men become so depressed and so anxious that they can’t control their emotions after a breakup (this sounds more like a female, but trust me, some men behave this way, too).
Let me paint the typical breakup picture for you, through the eyes of a man:
You go about your life during the day and you seem fine. Really fine. You go to work, you workout, you cook some dinner, and you play some video games. You realize you’ve barely thought about her all day because you’ve found things to distract your brain from the thought of her. But then the night comes, and the liquor comes, and the loneliness sneaks up on you, and before you know it, you’re drunk texting/calling her at 2 a.m.
At this point, you want the girl back. You start asking her stupid questions like, “didn’t you love me?” or, “wasn’t our relationship good enough for you?” Except, you don’t start asking her these stupid questions because you’re too drunk to talk straight. And, what’s even worse is sometimes you aren’t even drunk talking to her, you’re drunk talking to someone else because you dialed the wrong number (again, because you let the liquor get the best of you because you miss your ex).
If you’re in this situation right now, STOP. STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING.
Check out my guide below on how to handle a breakup like a man. You’ll thank me when you’ve finished.
Detox Yourself – Get Away from the Addiction – THE EX
That’s an odd title, I’ll admit it. However, it does make sense if you think about it. Basically, what I’m trying to get at is you should probably start with detoxing yourself from the woman that broke up with you (or the woman you broke up with). Let me explain.
Starting right now, stop all forms of communication with her. That means lose her number, delete her off of social media platforms, get rid of her e-mail, erase all the pictures, and block her if you have to. And do it now, don’t do it tomorrow or the next day.
Here’s another tip: If you do have the jones to call her after you’ve left a bar at, say, 3 a.m., don’t do it. Instead, think of three bad things about the relationship. Once you start thinking about the negatives, you’ll start to get over how much you miss her (especially if the negatives outweigh the positives every time).
And another tip: Don’t go to any common locations you used to go with her. Basically, avoid the usual spots for a while. That way you’ll avoid running into her and you’ll avoid thinking about the shared memories the two of you have in that particular place.
Get Rid of All Evidence
The relationship existed, you know that and she knows that. However, if you get rid of all evidence of it, you won’t think about it as much. In other words, delete all pictures that you have (that means both on social media and in your camera roll). Think about it this way, there are so many other hot women on this planet you can take future pictures with (including beach photo ops).
If there’s anything at your place that is your ex’s, toss it. You can burn if you’d like, too. If she wants it back, mail it to her or have someone else drop it by her place. DO NOT bring it yourself.
And, if she’s bought you stuff in the past, get rid of that, too. There’s no need to wear a shirt she bought you and reminisce about it. There’s also no reason to keep it in your closet as a hidden memory (specifically because you’ll have to dig it out again one day and that day may be the day your current girlfriend sees what your ex bought you). You want to avoid such situations at all costs!
The Friendship Has Got to Go
Women always suggest that the two of you can stay friends; DO NOT DO THIS. If she doesn’t want to be with you, there’s no reason she should be allowed to still have your friendship. She dumped you, so she should get what she wants: NONE OF YOU.
If you really, really want to keep her as a friend, do so after 60 days. The breakup hump will be gone at that point.
Stop Drinking So Much
Drinking your sorrows away never got a man anywhere. But still, I get it. When you’re heartbroken you want to be able to lean on booze to help you out. However, when you wake up the next morning, you won’t only wake up to an empty bed, but you’ll also wake up to a pretty nasty hangover.
Try using your friends and family as distractions. Go out and find a new hobby and dive head first into it.
Be Present Around Women
To be honest, the best person to be around after a breakup is a woman. I’m not talking about a random woman that you may or may not hook up with at the end of the night. Instead, I’m talking about a female friend or a few female friends.
Why should you do this? You should do this because females will listen to your problems, help you work out your issues, and give you the attention you need at a time like this. Plus, they’ll keep you in line and make sure you don’t drunk dial your ex.
Start Dating Again
Don’t start dating the day after the breakup, but don’t take months to get back on the wagon, either. Start at a healthy pace. What’s my suggestion? Start about a month or two months after the breakup. Be sure to tread lightly, though.
Lastly, don’t talk to your dates about your recent ex.
Hope you liked that!
By Jenny Lyn