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Sex is not fun and pleasure all the time. It’s not always hot and erotic, either. There are moments of discomfort and pain, of wanting it to be over because it hurts more than it gives her joy. We really can’t have it all, can we?
Pain during sex not only ruins it for both of you as it also results to more serious repercussions such as fear of sex and reduced libido. This eventually prompts to zero intimacy. When there’s pain, her body is trying to tell her something is wrong. Thus, it is important to pause and give her some space, so that she can determine what’s causing it.
Women are not as easily aroused as men are, so foreplay is vital in order to stimulate lubrication. The more lubricated she is the better she feels (no pain!) during penetrative sex. You also have to know what turns her on – it may be intense foreplay, watching porn together or oral stimulation – whatever works for her as long as she can say ‘ooh’ rather than ‘ouch’.
Infections on her genitals such as herpes and yeast infections can make sex agonizing more than pleasurable. Women who are oblivious of their infections wouldn’t know that there may be changes in their vaginas that may be adding up to the pain. If this is the case, she needs to get checked in order for her to be properly treated. Most genital infections are easily treated, so this should not pose a challenge.