by Mike Stewart
As humans, we are prone to experiencing a wide variety of emotions and feelings, both positive and negative ones. A lot of factors are responsible for how we feel, the people we relate with, what we spend our day doing, the food we eat, the drugs we take, medical history, etc. these emotions we feel are involuntary action controlled by the brains response to stimuli in our environment.   The hippocampus, hypothalamus, and amygdalin located between the brain stem and the central hemisphere govern and regulate the emotions we feel. The type of emotions we feel stems from actions and inactions in our daily lives. Positive emotions like joy, forgiveness, pride, amusement, hope, pride, inspiration, love, gratitude, and serenity are often a result of satisfactory occurrences going on around us. These positive emotions cause a state of relaxation and also helps to boost our immune system.   Negative emotions include anger, sadness, fear, sorrow, feeling hopeless and helpless, distress, and depression. These negative emotions cause damage to our body organs e.g. fear affects the kidney, anxiety affects the heart and sadness affects the heart and lungs   Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance displeasure or hostility. Synonymous words used to describe this feeling are fury, vexation, irritability, ill-temper, road rage, annoyance, and wrath. Common emotions known to trigger anger are shame, sadness, fear, jealousy, hurt, embarrassment, worry, and guilt. There are several types of anger such as verbal anger, violate anger, retaliatory anger, passive anger, annoyance anger, justifiable anger, etc. but there are three main types of anger that determine how we react in certain situations.  


  ANGER MANAGEMENT Is a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demand of others and avoidance of confrontation. It the indirect expression of feelings of rage and hurt due to the inability to honestly and openly express your true feelings. Some examples of passive-aggressive behavior include:   Making excuses Fear of intimacy Evading problems Sarcasm Playing the victim  

Signs of passive-aggressive behavior

    Frequent complaints about being unappreciated Procrastination Acting cynical and hostile Resentment and disagreeing with the demands of others Performing tasks inaccurately and being very stubborn Refusal to meet deadlines and follow instruction Making others take the blames for your wrongdoings  


  Pay attention to people showing intense signs of passive-aggressive behaviors Avoid having issues like quarrel and fights with passive-aggressive people Study your behavior and recognize your own signs and symptoms of exhibiting passive-aggressiveness Set boundaries and limit the extent to which you can tolerate his or her behavior Establish consequences for wrong actions and inactions  


  Open aggression can cause mental disorders if not properly managed. Being very aggressive can be triggered by a lot of factors such as drugs, alcohol, and other pending life issues you might be experiencing. it can also come as a side effect of prescription drugs.  

Signs and symptoms of aggression

  The hostile reaction to normal daily occurrences Poor communication skills Verbally abusive Lack of concentration and verbal reasoning Agitation, moodiness, and anxiety Unwillingness to accept responsibility for actions taken  

How to handle hostile and aggressive people

  Keep your distance and avoid confrontation as much as possible Consider inviting a third party to intervene on your behalf in cases of the close relationship Study yourself and examine signs of hostile reaction to things around you Communicate and express your concern Respond to their aggressiveness with calmness and avoid engaging in the chaos they’re creating  


ANGER MANAGEMENT   Assertive anger is a way to resolve conflicts in a respectful and tranquil manner while taking into consideration everyone involved in the issue to avoid unintentionally hurting people’s feelings. Signs and symptoms that a person is exhibiting assertive behavior:   Calm and windless resolution of fight and quarrels Avoidance of escalation of small issues especially with aggressive and passive-aggressive people Friendly and easy to relate with Paying attention to other peoples likes and dislikes Being straightforward and honest   Some experts believe that anger triggers a fight or flight response in the brain, anger causes physical responses like increased levels of adrenaline and increased blood pressure.   Some experts suggest that an average person gets angry at least once a day, others suggest that we experience anger an average of fifteen times a day.   Anger is not a mental disorder but is considered to be a symptom of other mental health issues.   A therapist can help teach the necessary skills to help manage and control unhelpful thoughts and situations that trigger anger. Some skills and techniques used in anger management therapy include self-awareness, impulse control, breathing technique, meditation, and relaxation strategies.  

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