When Two Become Three (For The Night)
There comes a point in life when the subject of having a threesome may enter the conversation. Whether it is you or her that desire to try out this experience, it is crucial to make sure that you get it right!
There are a few things that can go wrong if you are not careful and plan this out with thorough communication and thought.
Everyone needs to be comfortable
– this is the main thing to be aware of.
If at any point during your first attempt someone is not happy then: stop the whole thing.
It is not the end of the world if you cut it short. There is always time to figure it out for the future. What is most important is that you can continue to maintain a loving relationship with your other half.
Some people say that having a threesome can put one person out. Make sure that it is something you wish to do as a couple and not more so just for the satisfaction of one indiviadual. It is crucial to keep all participants actively involved and not just have sex with someone else in front of your partner.
If this is not played out right it can ruin relationships.
So attention needs to be on each other as a couple and not on the newbie, the extra person is more like a prop than a person. Remember who is in love and keep that in mind.
Some people are naturals!
Although some of us may feel a little insecure with someone else joining in the fun of our most intimate activities, others may feel excited and take to the extra person extremely well. These people may even move on to swinging as a hobby!
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Who is best to get involved
Certain joint decisions that need to be made. After you have established the gender that you wish to bring in then, there are two options as to who this person can be.
Perhaps you will feel better with someone you know? Maybe you have open minded friends that you are comfortable asking.
Maybe you prefer to have someone you have never met and then you do not ever need to see them again?
You may find that taking natural herbs increases your sexual ability and you may wish to experiment with lifelong fantasies. The trouble is when it comes to finding the third party for a threesome. Think wisely; you do not want to offend anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. Some couples prefer to ask someone they know and others go out on the hunt!
Whichever you choose is entirely up to you as a couple!
If it is your first time, you may wish to start off slow, perhaps with a nice meal and some drinks. A little alcohol always seems to calm nerves and increase confidence.
There are bars where like-minded people go to hang out. You could try making a date out of it and taking home a random stranger as the goal.
Whatever you do: make sure the situation is safe. Try not to get too drunk, after all; you want to know what is going on and remember it for future reference!
When the magic happens
Every person involved needs to enjoy. There are a number of ways you can ensure this, whether you attempt positions where each person is actively participating or whether you take it in equal turns to pleasure one another.
Masturbation can save the mood
The critical part of having a threesome is to make sure no one is left out and everyone has a good time, whether the person on the outside of the action can enjoy watching, and continue by pleasuring themselves for that period.
Encouragement at this point can be a great assistance, let them know that they are still in the room and still a part of the action – this can be a great turn on.
Positions that involve everyone
There are ways to all enjoy at once and we all have several orifices that can be stimulated. Sex toys are great when having threesomes, but the more people involved, the more options you have, it is great when three creative minds collide, you can become surprised at what you are all capable of!
When it is all over
Be sure to thank the person for partaking. It is always polite to switch numbers in case! You may just decide that this is something you enjoyed and may wish to do again.
The worst thing to do is to become awkward, so at the very least try to maintain a positive attitude – even if you decide that this was not for you.
If it wasn’t something that either one of you are both of you did not enjoy – discuss why – do not just leave it hanging in the air, Talking through likes and dislikes is the best thing you can do within a relationship to make it work!